What if my child is a bully?

This is one of the toughest question a parent has to answer.   The majority of parents that I have had to talk to or call about bullying my daughter were shocked.  The parents listened to what happened to my daughter during the conversation 90% of the time they apologize, have their child apologize and it never happens again.  Now please understand that when I call a parent that means we have worked on this issue as a family for a bit.  We have let our daughter handle it and we have given her advice and when it gets to this point of calling it means that we need to have this stop immediately.  Like I mentioned above that usually take cares of the situation and we each go along with our lives.  My daughter is not engage or tease (she wouldn't) the child that was being inappropriate but instead they are given a fresh start.  To some folks we may look like we are being naive but it's quite the opposite.  We are doing what's right when other people may be wrong.  After all we all make mistakes and sometimes they warrant a second chance......sometimes.  Very rarely do we have a child come to our school that is a bully.  When a bully does enter our school we lay down the rules about martial arts the first class like we do for all students.  At that point if they really love being in class it is their responsibility to show me that they deserve to be there and that the past is just that, the past.  When a child won't change they work themselves out of the program pretty quickly because personal growth and responsibility can not be hidden from me for long.  Our success for changing peoples lives has little to do with me and more to do with the person that wanted to change.  Since I believe that love and kindness are the cure for almost everything a child may struggle with I lead with the option of better choices for a better life.  So if your child is a bully the most important thing you can do is to be honest with yourself and not make excuses for inappropriate behavior so you can help fix it and not add to the problem.  Until next time Master T